We cannot outperform our level of self-esteem. Iyanla Vanzant More Quotes by Iyanla Vanzant More Quotes From Iyanla Vanzant People you don't love can't hurt you. Iyanla Vanzant hurt people I have learned the hard way to mind my business, without judging who people are and what they do. I am more troubled by the lack of space being provided for the truth to unfold. Humans cannot seem to wait for or honor the truth. Instead, we make it up based on who we believe people should or should not be. Iyanla Vanzant space believe people No matter how painful your past has been, you have made it through. Iyanla Vanzant painful matter past I pray because I am real clear that what I am doing and how I am doing it is my service, is my ministry, and so I want to be in perfect alignment with my creator. I do not care who you are. If I do not get the okay on the inside, you will not be showing up on the outside. Iyanla Vanzant care real perfect In silence, we have an opportunity to reflect, listen, and gain new insights about ourselves. In silence, we can think, feel, and most important of all, breathe. When you seek guidance, understanding, clarity, or peace of mind, the first step is to master the art of silence and to rethink the value of solitude. Iyanla Vanzant opportunity art thinking You know when I was 20 and 30, they were insecurities. Now they're just a new normal. I'm 60 years old, so my expectations of who I am and how I look and how I show up in the world had to shift. Not because I couldn't help it, or not because I did anything wrong, but because I had to get into the natural flow of my being as a woman. Iyanla Vanzant new-normal who-i-am years Gossip is when you have a malice of intent or mindless, third-party conversation to someone about someone, something you haven't said to that someone. Iyanla Vanzant gossip party conversation You're never healing the level you're on. You're always healing the level you came from. For example, you know things today that you didn't know in your first marriage. Iyanla Vanzant levels example healing Thinking is the problem. Thinking is hazardous to your progress in life. Don't think - feel. Iyanla Vanzant progress problem thinking Sometimes you have to lose everything in order to gain yourself. Iyanla Vanzant gains sometimes order In order to feel loved, be respected and stay connected, we humans have a tendency to lie. We lie about who we are, what we want, what we need, what we have done or will do. Perhaps 'lie' is too strong a word. Let me say that what we do is withhold the truth. Iyanla Vanzant strong order lying You've got to have a vision and an intention and that will guide what you do. I call it devotion. Ask yourself, "Is this not moving me toward where we need to be?" I believe that's helpful because a vision pulls you forward and it keeps you focused. A vision for the day, for the week, for the month and a lifelong vision - whatever works for you. And then you govern your activities and your behaviors accordingly. Iyanla Vanzant vision believe moving I now know that nothing in my life will change until I change the way I see my life and myself. Iyanla Vanzant knows way You must be willing to give total unconditional love to everyone, under all circumstances. That means being willing to be totally responsible for what you do and how you do it. Iyanla Vanzant unconditional-love giving mean A wound needs air in order to heal. We must talk about and expose those things which have hurt or harmed us in some way. Our wounds need nurturing care in order to heal. If we are to nurture and heal, we must admit that the wounds exist. We must carefully do what is necessary to help ourselves feel better. Iyanla Vanzant feel-better hurt air Transformation doesn't have to be deep, dark and mysterious. If you screw up, fine - laugh at yourself, learn and move on. Iyanla Vanzant dark laughing moving Many of us believe that we are victims to what happens to us, and therefore unworthy of anything better. What we've been taught and trained to believe about ourselves as children, often this is negative and we need to unlearn that. The way we unlearn them is by having a vision and moving forward. Staying focused and being true to that vision of what we desire for ourselves. Iyanla Vanzant moving-forward believe children Spend more time in daily reflection, contemplation and meditation. Had I done that at 20, things would have been very different in my life. But things really were as they needed to be, because I had to learn ... how important it was. Iyanla Vanzant important meditation reflection I don't think anybody can be held accountable or responsible for anyone's behaviors expect the individual. This goes beyond that particular situation. Iyanla Vanzant individual behavior thinking Planning is the only way to keep yourself on track. Plan your moments to be joyous. Plan your days to be filled with peace. Plan your life to be an experience of growth. When you know where you are going, the universe will clear a path for you. Iyanla Vanzant track growth way
