We... heal ourselves by giving others what we most need. Sherry Turkle More Quotes by Sherry Turkle More Quotes From Sherry Turkle People thought I was very pro-computer. I was on the cover of Wired magazine. [Then things began to change. In the early 80s,] we met this technology and became smitten like young lovers. But today our attachment is unhealthy. Sherry Turkle technologyattachmentpeople There are moments of opportunity for families; moments they need to put technology away. These include: no phones or texting during meals. No phones or texting when parents pick up children at school - a child is looking to make eye contact with a parent! Sherry Turkle eyechildrenschool As we distribute ourselves, we may abandon ourselves. Sherry Turkle abandonmay Does virtual intimacy degrade our experience of the other kind and, indeed, of all encounters, of any kind? Sherry Turkle encounterskinddoe Kids have moved from, "I have a feeling, I want to make a call," to "I'd like to have a feeling, I need to send a text." In other words, there's a continual need for validation. They're constituting a thought or feeling by sending it out for votes. That's really not where you want to be emotionally. Sherry Turkle votefeelingskids What I'm seeing is a generation that says consistently, 'I would rather text than make a telephone call.' Why? It's less risky. I can just get the information out there. I don't have to get all involved; it's more efficient. I would rather text than see somebody face to face. Sherry Turkle telephonesgenerationsfaces We're letting [technology] take us places that we don't want to go. Sherry Turkle technologywant If we're not able to be alone, we're going to be more lonely. And if we don't teach our children to be alone, they're only going to know how to be lonely. Sherry Turkle motivationlonelychildren I think computers are the ultimate writing tool. I'm a very slow writer, so I appreciate it every day. Sherry Turkle appreciatewritingthinking Terrified of being alone, yet afraid of intimacy, we experience widespread feelings of emptiness, of disconnection, of the unreality of self. And here the computer, a companion without emotional demands, offers a compromise. You can be a loner, but never alone. You can interact, but need never feel vulnerable to another person. Sherry Turkle emotionallonelinessself These days, insecure in our relationships and anxious about intimacy, we look to technology for ways to be in relationships and protect ourselves from them at the same time. Sherry Turkle insecuretechnologylooks If behind popular fascination with Freudian theory there was a nervous, often guilty preoccupation with the self as sexual, behind increasing interest in computational interpretations of mind is an equally nervous preoccupation with the self as machine. Sherry Turkle fascinationselfmind Teenagers talk about the idea of having each other's 'full attention.' They grew up in a culture of distraction. They remember their parents were on cell phones when they were pushed on swings as toddlers. Now, their parents text at the dinner table and don't look up from their BlackBerry when they come for end-of-school day pickup. Sherry Turkle teenagerphonesschool What is the value of interactions that contain no understanding of us and that contribute nothing to a shared store of human meaning? Sherry Turkle interactionstoresunderstanding In the area of robotics and in the area of connectivity, technology is offering us things that we are vulnerable to - and we have to have a better response than a shrug. Sherry Turkle responsevulnerabletechnology We have relationships with many different things, creatures and beings. We have relationships with cats, with dogs, with horses, and we know that there are certain things they can't do. So we'll add robots to that list, and we'll learn what they can and cannot do. No harm, no foul. Sherry Turkle horsecatdog The kind of solitude that refreshes and restores is very important, not just for children, not just for adolescents, but for all of us. If you don't teach your children how to be alone they will only be able to be lonely. Sherry Turkle solitudelonelychildren I apologize to all of my colleagues who've been writing up storms, but as a culture we've essentially put ourselves into a position where Mark Zuckerberg can say, "Privacy as a social norm is no longer relevant," and a lot of people don't blink an eye. Sherry Turkle eyewritingpeople The computer is a mind machine. It doesn't have its own psychology, but in a way it presents itself as though it does. Sherry Turkle psychologycomputermind I don't tell a story unless I have a very deep bench. If you tell an idiosyncratic story, there's no resonance. People read it and say, "I don't see anyone like that." So I tell a story only when I have many stories behind it. Sherry Turkle very-deeppeople
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