We in the West seem to have made a fetish out of complete individual self-sufficiency, of not needing help, of being completely private except in a very few selected relationships. Carl Rogers More Quotes by Carl Rogers More Quotes From Carl Rogers Growth occurs when individuals confront problems, struggle to master them, and through that struggle develop new aspects of their skills, capacities, views about life. Carl Rogers skillsstruggleviews We think we listen, but very rarely do we listen with real understanding, true empathy. Yet listening, of this very special kind, is one of the most potent forces for change that I know. Carl Rogers empathyrealthinking People are just as wonderful as sunsets if you let them be. When I look at a sunset, I don't find myself saying, "Soften the orange a bit on the right hand corner." I don't try to control a sunset. I watch with awe as it unfolds. Carl Rogers orangesunsethands When someone really hears you without passing judgment on you, without trying to take responsibility for you, without trying to mold you, it feels damn good. . . . When I have been listened to and when I have been heard, I am able to re-perceive my world in a new way and to go on. It is astonishing how elements which seem insoluble become soluble when someone listens. How confusions which seem irremediable turn into relatively clear flowing streams when one is heard. Carl Rogers empathyconfusionresponsibility When the other person is hurting, confused, troubled, anxious, alienated, terrified; or when he or she is doubtful of self-worth, uncertain as to identity, then understanding is called for. The gentle and sensitive companionship of an empathic stance… provides illumination and healing. In such situations deep understanding is, I believe, the most precious gift one can give to another. Carl Rogers confusedhurtbelieve As no one else can know how we perceive, we are the best experts on ourselves. Carl Rogers perceiveknow-howexperts The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change. Carl Rogers hypnosischangeappreciation A person cannot teach another person directly; a person can only facilitate another's learning Carl Rogers facilitateteachpersons In my early professional years I was asking the question: How can I treat, or cure, or change this person? Now I would phrase the question in this way: How can I provide a relationship which this person may use for his own personal growth? Carl Rogers changehealingrelationship The way of being with another person which is termed empathic...means temporarily living in their life, moving abut in it delicately without making judgment... to be with another in this way means that for the time being you lay aside the views and values you hold for yourself in order to enter the other's world without prejudice...a complex, demanding, strong yet subtle and gentle way of being. Carl Rogers strongmeanmoving The good life is a process, not a state of being. It is a direction not a destination. Carl Rogers journeyinspirationallife People only seriously consider change when they feel accepted for exactly who they are. Carl Rogers acceptedfeelspeople The only person who cannot be helped is that person who blames others. Carl Rogers blamepersonsinspirational I realize that if I were stable, prudent and static; I'd live in death. Therefore I accept confusion, uncertainty, fear and emotional ups and downs; because that's the price I'm willing to pay for a fluid, perplexed and exciting life. Carl Rogers emotionalconfusionpay When a person realizes he has been deeply heard, his eyes moisten. I think in some real sense he is weeping for joy. It is as though he were saying, "Thank God, somebody heard me. Someone knows what it's like to be me". Carl Rogers eyerealthinking If I can listen to what he can tell me, if I can understand how it seems to him; if I can see its personal meaning for him, if I can sense the emotional flavor which it has for him, then I will be releasing potent forces of change in him. Carl Rogers flavorcommunicationemotional The only person who is educated is the one who has learned how to learn and change. Carl Rogers educationmotivationalinspirational I think my deepest criticism of the educational system . . . is that it's all based upon a distrust of the student. Don't trust him to follow his own leads; guide him; tell him what to do; tell him what he should think; tell him what he should learn. Consequently at the very age when he should be developing adult characteristics of choice and decision making, when he should be trusted on some of those things, trusted to make mistakes and to learn from those mistakes, he is, instead, regimented and shoved into a curriculum, whether it fits him or not. Carl Rogers educationalmistakethinking What you are to be, you are now becoming. Carl Rogers be-youbecominggrowth I have come to think that one of the most satisfying experiences I know — and also one of the most growth-promoting experiences for the other person — is just fully to appreciate this individual in the same way that I appreciate a sunset. Carl Rogers sunsetcloudshands
