We need to regain the art of civil discourse and more practically, I don't think you change anyone's mind by calling them names.

Steven Petrow

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The murkiness of Donald Trump's position is really what distinguishes him from other Republican nominees and contenders who have been steadfast in their opposition to LGBTQ equality.

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A big question that we have is that we do not understand why the comfort of the few should override the comfort of the many.

From my vantage point, when I'm criticized in a way that I can hear what's being said - i.e., the issues - I'm more likely to listen and respond. A lot of the personal email I receive consists of name calling; I'll write back and say: Talk to me like I'm a person and you're a person and tell me where you disagree with me. I can't tell you how that turns people upside down. More often than not they write back with an apology and a reasoned argument.

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Okay, so here's my question: When did civility become incompatible with protest? Why do some people consider civility an antonym - anathema, even - to political action and dissent? Because, and I'm raising my voice, it's not. Have we forgotten how Mahatma Gandhi used nonviolent civil disobedience to free India from British rule and inspire civil rights movements worldwide?

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When someone transitions you should refer to them by their new name both in the present and with references back in time.

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Calling a trans person by their former name is referred to as "deadnaming" and is considered highly offensive to most trans people I know.

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There's nothing you can say that won't make you seem ungrateful or rude.

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A quick comeback is usually meant as license to be mean.

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I keep reading that Donald Trump is the most pro-LGBT GOP presidential nominee of all time - and I actually think that's true.

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Acceptance comes through understanding.

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I know many of my female friends do not like being referred to as "ladies."

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What really surprised me was that more than half of all deaths by gunshot are suicides, more than 20,000 a year, about 58 a day.

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Every generation seems to have its members who think the world has gone to hell and a hand basket and that they need to explain a challenging world to their kids.

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I'll tell you what gives me hope. After the struggle for marriage equality, the LGBTQ community has built some very powerful organizations; in particular, I'm thinking of HRC (the Human Rights Campaign), GLAAD... but there are many, many others, too. Along with those organizations come some savvy and tested leaders who have come to understand not only how to change hearts and minds but also legislators and judges votes.

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To parents who find a child's disclosure about sexual or gender identity challenging, I always urge what I'd call "moderated" honesty. If you can't say "I love you," then say something like, "I'm going to need some time to digest this news." Buy time this way. And then think.

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Too many people think that "good manners" are about subjugating yourself to others. Not true. Respect, and just as important, self-respect are two key elements in this equation.

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More people use guns to kill themselves than to kill others.

Most pedophiles are straight not gay.

I really don't understand how parents can talk about gay couples' PDA as a problem or a transgender teen's suicide and not the fact that too many of our kids are being murdered in the schools and on the streets.

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Being LGBT is not a choice. It's not about "a sexual proclivity." It's not a "lifestyle," as you put it. It's about our identity. Pride is a time when we come together to celebrate our community and when others do, too. Just as we do for other racial, ethnic, and religious groups that are part of the "tossed salad" nature of our society.

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