What lingers from the parent's individual past, unresolved or incomplete, often becomes part of her or his irrational parenting. Virginia Satir More Quotes by Virginia Satir More Quotes From Virginia Satir I want to love you without clutching, appreciate you without judging, join you without invading, invite you without demanding, leave you without guilt, criticize you without blaming, and help you without insulting. If I can have the same from you, then we can truly meet and enrich each other. Virginia Satir appreciate judging love-you I want you to get excited about who you are, what you are, what you have, and what can still be for you. I want to inspire you to see that you can go far beyond where you are right now. Virginia Satir excited want inspire Feelings of worth can flourish only in an atmosphere where individual differences are appreciated, mistakes are tolerated, communication is open, and rules are flexible - the kind of atmosphere that is found in a nurturing family. Virginia Satir family motivational appreciation Life is not what it's supposed to be. It's what it is. The way you cope with it is what makes the difference. Virginia Satir break-up inspirational life We get together on the basis of our similarities; we grow on the basis of our differences. Virginia Satir bases differences together We need 4 hugs a day for survival. We need 8 hugs a day for maintenance. We need 12 hugs a day for growth. Virginia Satir marriage inspirational love Communication is to relationships what breath is to life. Virginia Satir breaths communication Your responses to the events of life are more important than the events themselves. Virginia Satir response events important It is now clear to me that the family is a microcosm of the world. To understand the world, we can study the family: issues such as power, intimacy, autonomy, trust, and communication skills are vital parts underlying how we live in the world. To change the world is to change the family. Virginia Satir issues communication skills There are five freedoms: Virginia Satir risk freedom thinking I believe the greatest gift I can conceive of having from anyone is to be seen by them, heard by them, to be understood and touched by them. Virginia Satir heard love believe Every word, facial expression, gesture, or action on the part of a parent gives the child some message about self-worth. It is sad that so many parents don't realize what messages they are sending. Virginia Satir self-worth expression children We must not allow other people's limited perceptions to define us. Virginia Satir being-yourself positive-thinking life I regard (parenting) as the hardest, most complicated, anxiety-ridden, sweat-and-blood-producing job in the world. Succeeding requires the ultimate in patience, common sense, commitment, humor, tact, love, wisdom, awareness, and knowledge. At the same time, it holds the possibility for the most rewarding, joyous experience of a lifetime, namely, that of being successful guides to a new and unique human being. Virginia Satir successful jobs commitment People prefer the certainty of misery to the misery of uncertainty Virginia Satir misery certainty people The message sent is not always the message received. Virginia Satir messages The Problem is never the problem! It is only a symptom of something much deeper. Virginia Satir symptoms deeper problem I think if I have one message, one thing before I die that most of the world would know, it would be that the event does not determine how to respond to the event. That is a purely personal matter. The way in which we respond will direct and influence the event more than the event itself. Virginia Satir events doe thinking Over the years I have developed a picture of what a human being living humanely is like. She is a person who understand, values and develops her body, finding it beautiful and useful; a person who is real and is willing to take risks, to be creative, to manifest competence, to change when the situation calls for it, and to find ways to accommodate to what is new and different, keeping that part of the old that is still useful and discarding what is not. Virginia Satir real spiritual beautiful The symbol in Chinese for crisis is made up of two ideographs: one means danger, the other means opportunity. This symbol is a reminder that we can choose to turn a crisis into an opportunity or into a negative experience. Virginia Satir negative-experiences opportunity mean
