What will support any relationship is clear, complete and conscious conversations when upsets or breakdowns occur. Iyanla Vanzant More Quotes by Iyanla Vanzant More Quotes From Iyanla Vanzant You know that you've healed an issue when you can talk about it and you're not weeping, when you can speak to it and identify the lesson. You know that you've healed an issue when, having gone through that, has a benefit that you live today. Iyanla Vanzant issues live-for-today gone WE [black women] HAVE ADAPTED TO A SOCIETY THAT DOES'NT HONOR US. Iyanla Vanzant black honor doe Our beliefs are what create our experiences. As we change our beliefs, we alter our perception, our version of reality. Iyanla Vanzant perception belief reality You cannot get to where you are going until you have learned all there is to learn about where you are. Iyanla Vanzant where-you-are-going where-you-are Until you make peace with your difficult memories, that pain will continue to bleed into your current and future experiences. Iyanla Vanzant currents pain memories Wherever your gift is, that's where it's going to be your greatest challenge. Iyanla Vanzant challenges Forgiveness is not about the other person or what they did. Forgiveness is for YOU and about YOU. Iyanla Vanzant forgiveness persons A man who is not accountable to anyone is a danger to himself Iyanla Vanzant danger men Every choice you make supersedes and overrides every other choice you make. Iyanla Vanzant choices-you-make choices I believe that the only thing that will dispel the darkness is for the light to come on. And the lights are coming on. Here, there. People are eating more vegetables, living green, taking in and saving animals. All of that is the light coming on. Iyanla Vanzant light animal believe If you don't have a test, you won't be able to have a testimony. Iyanla Vanzant tests able healing What looks like a failure teaches us what not to do, what does not work. We have lessons to learn from our experiences. Iyanla Vanzant lessons doe looks I surround people in unconditional acceptance and love to such a degree that everything that is unloving about them rises to the surface. Iyanla Vanzant and-love acceptance people I must have decided wrongly, because I am not at peace. Iyanla Vanzant decided I've seen the good, the bad, and the ugly. Lived it and I'm still here to talk about it and help someone else if I can. Iyanla Vanzant ugly stills helping You've got to know what your 'thing' is, and you've got to call it a 'thing,' whether it's meanness, nastiness, un-forgiveness, arrogance, ego, resistance, rebelliousness or defiance. Everybody's got a 'thing,' and once you call your 'thing' a 'thing,' we can give it a place to be or dismiss it. Iyanla Vanzant ego arrogance giving Well the beauty of 'Iyanla: Fix My Life' is that men are in every show. To our surprise, some of the deepest healing demonstrations have been with the men - the sons, the fathers, the husbands - because they agree to participate with the wife or the daughter or whatever it is we are looking at, and it is there. Iyanla Vanzant daughter husband mother Tell your story because your story will heal you and it will heal someone else. Iyanla Vanzant heal stories Whether at work, at home or in public, we have been trained to believe that who we are at the core of our being is often unacceptable. As a result, we work diligently to live up to - and sometimes down to - what others have made us out to be, whether or not it is an accurate reflection of who we are. Iyanla Vanzant reflection home believe The key to success is not what you do, it is how you feel about what you are doing. Iyanla Vanzant key-to-success how-you-feel keys
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