When people can do something simple to avoid conflict--say, hit a button or unlock a latch--they'll generally do it. Keith Ablow More Quotes by Keith Ablow More Quotes From Keith Ablow Most children would rather preserve the fantasy of a loving connection with their fathers and mothers, at all costs, even if it costs them their self-esteem. When you're three or seven years old, it's less frightening to think of yourself as an unlovable, disappointing screwup than to recognize the fact that you're living with a monster. Keith Ablow mother father children We are, all of us, crippled and twisted. Most of us strive desperately to keep our grotesqueries out of sight and mind. Our suffering is transformed by an alchemy of the soul into addiction, ulcers, strokes, hatred, even war. Keith Ablow addiction sight war God is not attracted to mountaintops or church steeples. God is drawn to suffering, and the dark places it surfaces, which is why sharing pain freely feels very much like love, and may be the same thing. (207) Keith Ablow like-love pain dark If you take the teachings of Jesus, whether you consider yourself saved or you don't, those teachings are pristine. They're wonderful guides for life. And there's nothing in them that says hurt other people. Keith Ablow teaching hurt jesus Sometimes when you push someone, you find out who that person really is. Keith Ablow persons sometimes Maybe the trying is the thing. Maybe it doesn't get better than that. Maybe you never quite get there. And maybe that's okay. Keith Ablow okay get-better trying Relationships are never chance events. Keith Ablow events chance If you're going to have 19 children, you should supervise them well. Keith Ablow wells should children ...the horrific fact that our lives and those of the people we love are impermanent and exquisitely fragile, that any of us can cease to exist without warning, that loving anyone, anywhere, at any time, leaves you infinitely vulnerable at every single moment. (20) Keith Ablow warning facts people A jealous husband is an ugly thing. Keith Ablow jealous ugly-things husband There's no original evil left in the world. Everyone's just recycling pain. (257) Keith Ablow pain evil world My throat tightened, but I held back the tears and reminded myself that withdrawing from a woman is no different than kicking a drug; you feel shaky and you want it, but eventually the need passes, and you feel restored. Keith Ablow drug different tears The truth will set you free. Unless you're guilty. Keith Ablow truth-will-set-you-free guilty Because depression is so thematically powerful and so dark, when it's very severe, it can make people feel not only as if they've lost a loving connection, but as if the whole world is devoid of love. So if we wonder how somebody could take 149 people with him when he commits suicide, one answer can be that depression, when it's most severe, can make people feel that life is completely without value, not just for them but for anyone. Keith Ablow suicide love life The roots of any evil deed can be traced to the perpetrator's refusal to experience pain. Keith Ablow pain roots evil But insight doesn't necessarily produce self-control. Sometimes you just see your destructiveness more clearly. Keith Ablow produce self sometimes The bad things don't seem to happen to bad people.' That's because they already did. There's no original evil left in the world. Keith Ablow evil people world ...Some people hurt so much they can't take what they need, even when someone wants to give it to them. (106) Keith Ablow hurt giving people People blush when one of their core truths is revealed. Keith Ablow core truth-is people Deep down, everyone wants the truth. Keith Ablow deep-down want