When the time comes for you to make a change or to grow, the universe will make you so uncomfortable you will eventually have no choice. Iyanla Vanzant More Quotes by Iyanla Vanzant More Quotes From Iyanla Vanzant From speaking with my mother I learned that forgiveness is a process that begins with the choice to end your own suffering. Iyanla Vanzant choices suffering mother Life doesn't have to be hard, life is on your side. Iyanla Vanzant hard-life your-side inspiring Your eyes will adjust to the level of deficiency Iyanla Vanzant levels eye inspiring My grandma always said, "Trouble is what God uses to prepare you for better things!" If you have trouble in your life, you are in a valley. If you are in a valley, you are being prepared for something bigger, better, greater; something you probably could not handle now. Iyanla Vanzant valleys grandma use Dear God, Please untie the nots. All of the can nots, should nots, may nots and have nots. Please erase from my mind the thoughts that I am not good enough. Iyanla Vanzant not-good-enough mind may We cannot outperform our level of self-esteem. Iyanla Vanzant levels self-worth self-esteem Trying to prove something to someone is never a valid reason for doing anything. Iyanla Vanzant prove reason trying I love a vision board. I have one hanging over my desk right now. Because what you see, you become, and it reminds you when you start getting busy in the day, about your vision. I like words more than pictures. I have a card sitting on my desk right now that says, "I only give out that which I wish to receive in return." It's one of Louise Hay's cards. Words remind me more and it gives me something to hold onto when I'm frantic about something else. Iyanla Vanzant vision wish giving I see a couple of things missing. Any society, any community, even in the family, when the elders don't do their jobs, the youth suffer. We have no done our job. I'm saying anybody 55 and up. We didn't teach people the basic things. Iyanla Vanzant couple jobs people The ego does not want to be wrong, ever. Iyanla Vanzant ego doe want We are missing the truth. We live in a society that lies and fosters and sells dishonesty at a discount. Remember the line, 'America spells cheese K-R-A-F-T? That does not spell cheese! We tell our kids that as long as it looks good on the outside, don't worry about the inside. Or work hard and you'll be rewarded in the end. That's not necessarily true anymore. We don't tell the truth about certain things. Young people see our hypocrisy. We haven't given them a model to follow. Iyanla Vanzant hard-work kids lying You can't look outside of yourself. You must look within yourself, and address all of the things that are going on within you, and clear out the things that are not useful. Whether it's fear or anger or shame or guilt or whatever it is - clean that stuff up. 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So whether you get your hair done less or your hair cut less, or your nails done less, as a writer and a speaker I was very clear that corporations weren't being as open and as generous and I wasn't getting the kind of work that I usually got. Iyanla Vanzant cutting self hair For some reason,we keep forgetting some of our experience. We look back but don't bring the value forward. We bring the anger, the upset. We bring the fear. Iyanla Vanzant upset forget looks
