When we judge others we contribute to violence. Marshall B. Rosenberg More Quotes by Marshall B. Rosenberg More Quotes From Marshall B. Rosenberg While we may not consider the way we talk to be 'violent,' our words often lead to hurt and pain, whether for others or for ourselves. Marshall B. Rosenberg communicationpainhurt To practice the process of conflict resolution, we must completely abandon the goal of getting people to do what we want. Marshall B. Rosenberg goalpracticepeople Our goal is to create a quality of empathic connection that allows everyone's needs to be met. Marshall B. Rosenberg empathyqualitygoal Use the words "I feel because I" to remind us that what we feel it isn't because of what the other person did, but because of a choice I've made. Marshall B. Rosenberg communicationchoicesuse Imagine connecting with the human spirit in each person in any situation at any time. Imagine interacting with others in a way that allows everyone's need to be equally valued. Imagine creating organizations and life-serving systems responsive to our needs and the needs of our environment. Marshall B. Rosenberg creatingorganizationneeds How I choose to look at any situation will greatly affect whether I have the power to change it or make matters worse. Marshall B. Rosenberg communicationmatterlooks People heal from their pain when they have an authentic connection with another human being. Marshall B. Rosenberg communicationpainpeople What I want in my life is compassion Marshall B. Rosenberg compassionheartgiving Two questions help us see why we are unlikely to get what we want by using punishment... The first question is: What do I want this person to do that's different from what he or she is currently doing? If we ask only this first question, punishment may seem effective because the threat or exercise of punitive force may well influence the person's behavior. However, with the second question, it becomes evident that punishment isn't likely to work: What do I want this person's reasons to be for doing what I'm asking? Marshall B. Rosenberg punishmentexercisetwo NVC enhances inner communication by helping us translate negative internal messages into feelings and needs. Our ability to distinguish our own feelings and needs and to empathize with them can free us from depression. Marshall B. Rosenberg empathycommunicationfeelings This language is from the head. It is a way of mentally classifying people into varying shades of good and bad, right and wrong. Ultimately, it provokes defensiveness, resistance, and counterattack. It is a language of demands. Marshall B. Rosenberg demandcommunicationpeople Never question the beauty of what you are saying because someone reacts with pain, judgment, criticism. It just means they have not heard you. Marshall B. Rosenberg communicationpainmean When we understand the needs that motivate our own and others behavior, we have no enemies. Marshall B. Rosenberg communicationenemyneeds At the root of every tantrum and power struggle are unmet needs. Marshall B. Rosenberg communicationstruggleroots When I recognize I've got anger, then I realize it's because I have a need that's not being met. Marshall B. Rosenberg being-mecommunicationneeds Never do anything that isn't play. Marshall B. Rosenberg nonviolent-communicationcommunicationplay Enemy images are the main reason conflicts don't get resolved. Marshall B. Rosenberg conflictcommunicationenemy Needs are never conflicting. When we say that, we are only saying that at the moment we aren't seeing how both needs can be met. That leaves an opening. When you think in the way I'm suggesting, you'll often find a way to get most needs met simultaneously. Marshall B. Rosenberg communicationneedsthinking Don't get addicted to your requests. Your objective is needs, not requests. Because then it becomes a demand. Marshall B. Rosenberg demandcommunicationneeds Always hear the 'Yes' in the 'No'. Marshall B. Rosenberg nonviolent-communicationcommunication
