When we relax about imperfection, we no longer lose our life moments in the pursuit of being different and in the fear of what is wrong. Tara Brach More Quotes by Tara Brach More Quotes From Tara Brach If our hearts are ready for anything, we can open to our inevitable losses, and to the depths of our sorrow. We can grieve our lost loves, our lost youth, our lost health, our lost capacities. This is part of our humanness, part of the expression of our love for life. Tara Brach love-life lost-love heart Our greatest longing is to be intimate. Tara Brach longing intimate If you can, do a gratitude practice: Each day write down three things you're grateful for. There are different ways to do this. You can have a gratitude buddy, someone with whom, at the end of the day, you exchange messages listing these three things you are grateful for. Also, you can journal it or reflect on it silently. Tara Brach gratitude grateful writing I decided to write 'True Refuge' during a major dive in my own health. Diagnosed with a genetic disease that affected my mobility, I faced tremendous fear and grief about losing the fitness and physical freedom I loved. Tara Brach mobility grief writing If [kids] get into loving relationships, they're afraid they'll be found wanting, won't have the looks or body shape our culture deems worthy. Many of us feel we're falling short and if we start feeling close to another person, that we'll be found out and rejected. Tara Brach feelings kids fall When we experience stress, the nervous system tries to control things. Part of waking up is discovering what we are beyond that controlling organism. Tara Brach wake-up stress trying Just come into stillness. Have your intention be to relax with the breath. That will begin to set in motion a habit that will start to train the mind. Tara Brach relax habit mind If you let someone know you appreciate him or her, especially when you're going to disagree, it gets that person's defenses down. Tara Brach appreciate defense persons It may sound lovey-dovey, but there's research showing the positive effect of meditation on parts of the brain that control emotion. Tara Brach meditation sound brain Unless we're completely awake, have a degree of that. We tense against love and hold on in a way that doesn't let it flow. When that's really strong, the key piece to freeing our hearts is self-compassion. Tara Brach strong compassion heart By taking the time to explore charged memories in therapy we might uncover feelings that have been buried for decades. Tara Brach feelings might memories The fear side can have us pull away and protect us, but it's really a withdrawal, a disassociation, a cutting off. Rather than the word detachment, I usually use the word non-attachment. That can be wholesome when we care and are completely engaged with each other but are not attached to things being a certain way. Tara Brach withdrawal cutting attachment With the first out breath, you are releasing worries, plans, mental tensions. With the second out breath, you are releasing physical tightness and tension. With the third out breath, you are releasing difficult emotions. Tara Brach emotion worry firsts Take moments to savor what is beautiful and good. Tara Brach moments beautiful Extend an act of kindness each day. No one has to know. It can be a smile, reassuring words, a small favor - without expecting something in return. Tara Brach expecting-something-in-return each-day kindness There's healthy attachment, like with a mother and child. It's biologically part of our survival. Tara Brach attachment mother children A lot of times in spiritual communities, detachment is considered to be an expression of being spiritually evolved when often, we have want and fear around being in relationship with each other. Tara Brach community expression spiritual I knew I could hold myself with that absolute love and compassion. Tara Brach love-and-compassion absolute-love compassion I think of desire as the essence that brings forth the whole universe. Tara Brach essence desire thinking When you are in touch with your body and heart, it allows you to then be in the world and act with intention and clarity and kindness. Tara Brach kindness heart world
