When you're the recipient of someone's understanding and empathy, you understand how it can help and it's just impossible, although sometimes it's hard to not share it with others. When people come up to me often, as you've observed, is they come up and they'll walk up to me and all of a sudden a man or woman will just grab me and hug me and say,' I just lost my son, lost my daughter, tell me, am I going to be OK, am I going to be OK ?' purpose. And a purpose is best utilized if it relates to something that related to what the person you lost cared about.