When you say, "I need more confidence," what you're really saying is, "I need those people over there to approve of me." That is the desire to control other people and what they think. The first person who figures out how to do this owns the world. Augusten Burroughs More Quotes by Augusten Burroughs More Quotes From Augusten Burroughs I myself am made entirely of flaws, stitched together with good intentions. Augusten Burroughs beautiful inspirational life You would be amazed by what you can give up, lose, or break, and yet still be a person who gets happy over brownies. Augusten Burroughs giving-up would-be happiness Some damage is too severe, some harm endures. And what you have to do is accept it. And by accept it I mean, don’t be the paralyzed person in the bed who is waiting to walk again. Realize, it’s never gonna happen. And find some other way to get around –swing from a vine, get a Mad Max wheelchair. Anything but…wait. Augusten Burroughs swings mad mean This is how you survive the unsurvivable, this is how you lose that which you cannot bear to lose, this is how you reinvent yourself, overcome your abusers, fulfill your ambitions and meet the love of your life: by following what is true, no matter where it leads you. Augusten Burroughs ambition overcoming matter No matter how huge your loss, as long as you remain engaged with your life, the best days of your life may still be ahead of you. Don't misunderstand me: the pain of your loss will remain with you for the rest of your life. But great joy will be there right beside it. Deep sorrow and deep joy can exist within you, side by side. At every moment. And it's not confusing. And it's not a conflict. Augusten Burroughs pain loss long Maybe you feel pressure to be positive because so many people rely on your good, fake-positive energy? If that's the case, screw everybody else. You're not a bottle of Valium. Augusten Burroughs positive-energy fake people The past does not haunt us. We haunt the past. We allow our minds to focus in that direction. We open memories and examine them. We reexperience emotions we felt during the painful events we experienced because we are recalling them in as much detail as we can. Augusten Burroughs focus memories past Love is a helium-based emotion; Love always takes the high road. Augusten Burroughs taking-the-high-road emotion love-is Red hair is great. It's rare, and therefore superior. Augusten Burroughs red-hair red hair You are allowed to be alive. You are allowed to be somebody different. You are allowed to not say goodbye to anybody or explain a single thing to anyone, ever. Augusten Burroughs different inspiration goodbye But feelings, no matter how strong or “ugly,” are not a part of who you are. They are the radio stations your mind listens to if you don’t give it something better to do. Feelings are fluid and dynamic; they change frequently. Feelings are something you HAVE, not something you ARE. Like physical beauty, a cold sore, or an opinion. Admitting you feel rage or terrible pain or regret or some old, rotten blame does not mean these feelings are part of who you are as a person. What these feelings mean is, you have to change your thinking to be free of them. Augusten Burroughs regret pain strong When you have your health, you have everything. When you do not have your health, nothing else matters at all. Augusten Burroughs matter This is what you should know about losing someone you love. They do not travel alone. You go with them. Augusten Burroughs someone-you-love losing-someone should Stars should not be seen alone. That's why there are so many. Two people should stand together and look at them. One person alone will surely miss the good ones. Augusten Burroughs stars two people Time moves only forward, never back. We look forward to a moment and then it arrives and an instant later it is gone. Like something on the surface of a river that we reached for but did not touch in time and it carried on, away. You cannot be a prisoner of your past against your will. Because you can only live in the past inside your mind. Augusten Burroughs rivers past moving I wouldn't want to waste any of my brain cells on forgiving if it's holding me back. Augusten Burroughs forgiving cells brain I used to feel so alone in the city. All those gazillions of people and then me, on the outside. Because how do you meet a new person? I was very stunned by this for many years. And then I realized, you just say, "Hi." They may ignore you. Or you may marry them. And that possibility is worth that one word. Augusten Burroughs cities people years But she did love him. I believe it. I know exactly how that is. To love somebody who doesn't deserve it. Because they are all you have. Because any attention is better than no attention. Augusten Burroughs knows attention believe Smoking had become my favorite thing in the world to do. It was like having instant comfort, no matter where or when. Augusten Burroughs smoking comfort world Although I was able to maintain a pleasant expression, I was mentally throwing up in her face. Augusten Burroughs able expression faces
