Where desire ends up causing suffering is when it fixates. Tara Brach More Quotes by Tara Brach More Quotes From Tara Brach Meditation can change the flavor of the season. Tara Brach seasonsflavormeditation The next time you find yourself in some way trying desperately to land safely, your compassion might be what finally gives you the courage you need to let go of the controls. In doing so, you might discover that each time you let go, it becomes easier and easier to re-enter the atmosphere of your own aliveness. Gradually you’ll come home to the flow of your own living presence, the warmth and space of your awakening heart. Tara Brach letting-gohomeheart We, like the Mother of the World, become the compassionate presence that can hold, with tenderness, the rising and passing waves of suffering. Tara Brach momsufferingmother The mistake we make is that when we're feeling another person is not treating us in the way that makes us feel secure and loved, we fixate our attention on that person and what's wrong with them. We also fixate on what's wrong with us. Instead, we can bring forward two wings of awareness: the wing of mindfulness (noticing what's going on inside us) and the wing of kindness (compassion to what's going on inside us). Tara Brach compassionkindnessmistake That non-attachment gives us the freedom to be exactly who we are. Tara Brach who-we-areattachmentgiving If attachment then carries forward in a way that's not healthy, we need to let it be there without making it wrong and bring as compassionate and honest attention to it as possible. Honor that this is part of being human, but it's important to know when it's getting in the way. Tara Brach healthyattachmenthonor I sometimes call this our "spacesuit self" because we come into an environment that is difficult and challenging, where we're told to be different. We're told to jump over hoops to be loved and appreciated, so we have to develop spacesuit strategies to get approval and create ways to avoid being judged. Tara Brach differentselfchallenges Because we have such a deeply grooved conditioning to reject and condemn ourselves, particularly in this culture, I find that emphasis on the word "acceptance" is central in healing. It brings our attention to the possibility of saying yes to what we are experiencing in the moment, and counteracts the conditioning to push away what feels unpleasant or intense or unfamiliar. Tara Brach saying-yesacceptancehealing If we're not open to losing, we're not open to loving. Tara Brach losingifs If there's a demand of being together in a certain way, those expectations and judgements take away from that space and create an edginess and a cramped-ness to the relationship. Tara Brach judgementspaceexpectations There are stories we take on from our culture, and there are stories based on our own personal history. Some of those stories lock us in limiting beliefs and lead to suffering, and there are others that can move us toward freedom. Tara Brach sufferingculturemoving My prayer became 'May I find peace... May I love this life no matter what.' I was seeking an inner refuge, an experience of presence and wholeness that could carry me through whatever losses might come. Tara Brach prayerlossmay Meditation helps us to get out of our thoughts about the future and really be in the present moment. Tara Brach momentsmeditationhelping Meditation helps us gain the capacity to relax, to connect with what is going on right here and right now, to connect with other people, to re-access our resourcefulness, our clarity and our ability to focus and keep an open heart. Tara Brach focusheartpeople Stories about ourselves and about the world continually arise in our minds and shape our beliefs about reality. Tara Brach storiesmindreality In the process of deeply accepting our own inner experience, instead of being identified with a story of a limited self, we realize the compassion and wakefulness that is our essence. Tara Brach compassionessenceself If I can forgive the attachment in myself and open to the vulnerability that's underneath it, then rather than fixating on another person to satisfy my need, I'm actually going right to where the needs come from and able to bring a real healing. Tara Brach attachmentrealhealing Along with judging myself harshly, I'd also always seen the truth of goodness in me. Tara Brach judging-myselfgoodnessjudging There is so much division in this world. So what is really the path of healing? It can begin in this moment, by embracing the life that`s here. Tara Brach divisionhealingworld Even a few moments of offering lovingkindness can reconnect you with the purity of your loving heart. Tara Brach momentsofferingheart
