While an ethic of justice proceeds from the premise of equality—that everyone should be treated the same—an ethic of care rests on the premise of nonviolence—that no one should be hurt. Carol Gilligan More Quotes by Carol Gilligan More Quotes From Carol Gilligan While men represent powerful activity as assertion and aggression, women in contrast portray acts of nurturance as acts of strength. Carol Gilligan feminine powerful men Maybe love is like rain. Sometimes gentle, sometimes torrential, flooding, eroding, joyful, steady, filling the earth, collecting in underground springs. When it rains, when we love, life grows. Carol Gilligan love-life rain spring In the different voice of women lies the truth of an ethic of care, the tie between relationship and responsibility, and the origins of aggression in the failure of connection. Carol Gilligan ties responsibility lying My research suggests that men and women may speak different languages that they assume are the same, using similar words to encode disparate experiences of self and social relationships. Because these languages share an overlapping moral vocabulary, they contain a propensity for systematic mistranslation. Carol Gilligan vocabulary self men The hardest times for me were not when people challenged what I said, but when I felt my voice was not heard. Carol Gilligan voice said people At a time when efforts are being made to eradicate discrimination between the sexes in the search for social equality and justice, the differences between the sexes are being rediscovered. Carol Gilligan differences justice sex For a man to be a man, did he have to be a soldier, or at least prepare himself for war? For a woman to be a woman, did she have to be a mother, or at least prepare herself to raise children? Soldiers and mothers were the sacrificial couple, honored by statues in the park, lauded for their willingness to give their lives to others. Carol Gilligan couple mother children I find the question of whether gender differences are biologically determined or socially constructed to be deeply disturbing. Carol Gilligan gender determined differences Theory can blind observation. Carol Gilligan design blind theory Both love and democracy depend on voice -- having a voice and also the resonance that makes it possible to speak and be heard. Carol Gilligan democracy voice speak Trust grows when babies and mothers establish that they can find each other again after the inevitable moments of losing touch. It is not the goodness of the mother or the relationship per se that is the basis for trust; it is the ability of mother and baby together to repair the breaks in their relationship that builds a safe house for love. Carol Gilligan mother house baby I've found that if I say what I'm really thinking and feeling, people are more likely to say what they really think and feel. The conversation becomes a real conversation. Carol Gilligan real people thinking Pleasure is a sensation. It is written into our bodies; it is our experience of delight, of joy. ... Pleasure will become a marker, a compass pointing to emotional true north. Carol Gilligan delight emotional joy Women have traditionally deferred to the judgment of men although often while intimating a sensibility of their own which is at variance with that judgment. Carol Gilligan variance judgment men The blind willingness to sacrifice people to truth, however, has always been the danger of an ethics abstracted from life. Carol Gilligan ethics sacrifice people Everything about women is in perpetual crisis. Carol Gilligan perpetual crisis It all goes back, of course, to Adam and Eve - a story which shows among other things, that if you make a woman out of a man, you are bound to get into trouble. Carol Gilligan trouble stories men I used to tell women graduate students, half-seriously, that the role of slightly rebellious daughter was one of the better roles for women living in patriarchy. Carol Gilligan daughter roles half Many women have told me they remember where they were when they read the book, and how they felt suddenly that what they really thought or felt about things made sense. Carol Gilligan me women remember book The women's movement is taking a different form right now, and it is because it has been so effective and so successful that there's a huge counter movement to try to stop it, to try to divide women from one another, to try to almost foment divisiveness. Carol Gilligan stop try women different
