Year-end financial statements express a truth about office life which is no less irrefutable yet also, in the end, no less irrelevant or irritating than an evolutionary biologist's proud reminder that the purpose of existence lies in the propagation of our genes.

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The challenge for a human now is to be more interesting to another than his or her smartphone.

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Do you love me enough that I may be weak with you? Everyone loves strength, but do you love me for my weakness? That is the real test.

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Anyone who isn't embarrassed of who they were last year probably isn't learning enough.

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We don't really learn anything properly until there is a problem, until we are in pain, until something fails to go as we had hoped ... We suffer, therefore we think.

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pain suffering thinking

It looks like it’s wasting time, but literature is actually the ultimate time-saver - because it gives us access to a range of emotions and events that it would take you years, decades, millennia to try to experience directly. Literature is the greatest reality simulator - a machine that puts you through infinitely more situations than you can ever directly witness.

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What I want to argue for is not that we should give up on our ideas of success, but that we should make sure that they are our own. We should focus in on our ideas and make sure that we own them, that we're truly the authors of our own ambitions. Because it's bad enough not getting what you want, but it's even worse to have an idea of what it is you want and find out at the end of the journey that it isn't, in fact, what you wanted all along.

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giving-up ambition journey

There is no such thing as work-life balance. Everything worth fighting for unbalances your life.

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Sweetness is the opposite of machismo, which is everywhere-and I really don't get on with machismo. I'm interested in sensitivity, and weakness, and fear, and anxiety, because I think that, at the end of the day, behind our masks, that's what we are.

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anxiety opposites thinking

Intimacy is the capacity to be rather weird with someone - and finding that that's ok with them.

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intimacy capacity relationship

The only people we can think of as normal are those we don't yet know very well.

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normal people thinking

Life seems to be a process of replacing one anxiety with another and substituting one desire for another--which is not to say that we should never strive to overcome any of our anxieties or fulfil any of our desires, but rather to suggest that we should perhaps build into our strivings an awareness of the way our goals promise us a respite and a resolution that they cannot, by definition, deliver.

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Most of what makes a book 'good' is that we are reading it at the right moment for us.

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Out of the millions of people we live among, most of whom we habitually ignore and are ignored by in turn, there are always a few that hold hostage our capacity for happiness, whom we could recognize by their smell alone and whom we would rather die than be without.

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ignored smell people

You normally have to be bashed about a bit by life to see the point of daffodils, sunsets and uneventful nice days.

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Never too late to learn some embarrassingly basic, stupidly obvious things about oneself.

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Art holds out the promise of inner wholeness.

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wholeness promise art

Don't despair: despair suggests you are in total control and know what is coming. You don't - surrender to events with hope.

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I learnt to stop fantasising about the perfect job or the perfect relationship because that can actually be an excuse for not living.

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excuse perfect jobs

Literature deserves its prestige for one reason above all others - because it's a tool to help us live and die with a little bit more wisdom, goodness, and sanity.

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One of the better guarantors of ending up in a good relationship: an advanced capacity to be alone.

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