You can never love anyone to your own detriment. That is not love, that is possession, control, fear, or a combination of them all. Iyanla Vanzant More Quotes by Iyanla Vanzant More Quotes From Iyanla Vanzant If you really want to live your life to the fullest and realize your greatest potential, you must be willing to run the risk of making some people mad. People may not like what you do, people may not like how you do it, but these people are not living your life. You are! Iyanla Vanzant mad running life You have to meet people where they are, and sometimes you have to leave them there. Iyanla Vanzant stay-motivated sometimes people Nothing destroys self-worth, self-acceptance and self-love faster than denying what you feel. Without feelings, you would not know where you are in life. Nor would you know what areas you need to work on. Honor your feelings. Allow yourself to feel them. Iyanla Vanzant recovery acceptance loss No matter what is going on in your life today, remember, it is only preparation. People come and go; situations rise and fall; it's all preparation for better things. You must stretch, reach, grow into your goodness. Without the preparation we receive through adversity, disappointment, confusion, or pain, we could not appreciate the goodness when it arrives. Iyanla Vanzant pain disappointment fall Everything you have done and been through is valuable and important. In order to be who you are, to know what you know, to be where you are in this moment, you needed to go through what you went through. Iyanla Vanzant order past knowledge When you can tell the story and it doesn't bring up any pain, you know it is healed. Iyanla Vanzant pain fear stories If someone has offended you, insulted you, or disappointed you, let it go! If you are remembering all the ways you have been hurt or forgotten, let it go! Ask yourself, what good does it do for me to hold on to this? Iyanla Vanzant offended-you hurt letting-go It is not what you hear, it is where you listen from within yourself that gives meaning to the message. Iyanla Vanzant messages giving You can accept or reject the way you are treated by other people, but until you heal the wounds of your past, you will continue to bleed. You can bandage the bleeding with food, with alcohol, with drugs, with work, with cigarettes, with sex, but eventually, it will all ooze through and stain your life. You must find the strength to open the wounds, stick your hands inside, pull out the core of the pain that is holding you in your past, the memories, and make peace with them. Iyanla Vanzant pain memories sex Family is supposed to be our safe haven. Very often, it's the place where we find the deepest heartache. Iyanla Vanzant heartache family-love safe-haven You cannot make your life move faster than it's moving. No matter how urgent your situation may seem to be, things are going to happen when they happen, not a minute sooner. Be patient with yourself. Be patient with others. Be patient with life. Patience always pays off. Iyanla Vanzant may pay moving Life will let you get away with something for a while, but sooner or later, you will pay the price. Everything you do in life causes the effects that you experience. When you get the bill, be prepared to pay. Iyanla Vanzant pay-the-price bills causes You are the love you seek. You are the companionship you desire. You are your own completion, your own wholeness. You are your best friend, your confidant. 'You are,' as poetess Audre Lourde wrote, 'the one that you are looking for.' You are the only one who can do what you are looking for someone else to do. Iyanla Vanzant companionship desire love-you Forgiveness is a process of giving up the old for something new. Old experiences and memories that we hold on to in anger, resentment, shame, or guilt cloud our spirit mind. The truth is, everything that has happened had to happen. It was a growth experience. There was something you needed to know or learn. If you stay angry, hurt, afraid, ashamed, or guilty, you miss the lesson. You will be stuck in a cloud of pain. Iyanla Vanzant giving-up pain hurt Release and detach from every person, every circumstance, every condition, and every situation that no longer serves a divine purpose in your life. All things have a season, and all seasons must come to an end. Choose a new season, filled with purposeful thoughts and activities. Iyanla Vanzant change letting-go inspirational Your willingness to look at your darkness is what empowers you to change Iyanla Vanzant empowering darkness inspiring It takes a lot more courage to let something go than it does to hang on to it, trying to make it better. Letting go doesn't mean ignoring a situation. Letting go means accepting what is, exactly as it is, without fear, resistance, or a struggle for control. Iyanla Vanzant struggle letting-go mean Crying purifies and cleanses. I once read about a scientific experiment which demonstrated that there are 38 toxic chemicals in a tear of sadness, while only one toxin exists in a tear of joy. As you cry in sadness, fear, or confusion, you cleanse the body and spirit of toxins which cloud the mind and prevent it from accepting the truth. Iyanla Vanzant sadness confusion clouds Stop hiding! Stop holding yourself back and playing yourself down! Stop worrying about how you look and what people are saying. Stop listening to what people are saying and trying to find out if they are whispering about you. Stop waiting for someone to tell you that you are okay or to make you feel special. Life is special! It is a special gift. This is your life! Now take your gift and live it out in the open! Decide today that you are going to live out loud! Iyanla Vanzant playing-yourself life people Everything we experience-no matter how unpleasant-comes into our lives to teach us something. Iyanla Vanzant our-lives teach matter
