Tonya Hurley: You can only get outside yourself by looking inside.

You can't have it both ways. Love is too powerful to hide for very long. Deny it and suffer the consequences. Acknowledge it and suffer the consequences. Revealing it can either be shameful or it can be liberating. It is for others to decide which it will be.

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Being in love with someone who doesn't even know you exist isn't the worst thing in the world. In fact, it's quite the oppostie. Almost like passing in a term paper that you know sucked, but having that period of time where you haven't gotten your grade back yet -- that kind of exhale where you haven't been rejected, although you pretty much know how it's going to turn out.

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term-paper being-in-love world

If you expect nothing, you can never be disappointed.

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expect-nothing disappointment expectations

A true friend is someone who is always there for you, with no agenda other than the friendship itself. We rely on our friends to lift us up in bad times, to keep us grounded in good times, but most importantly, to be there for us when we need nothing at all.

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agendas true-friend needs

We all like to think the world ends when we do. The truth is our acquaintances, our friends, and our loved ones all live on, and through them, so do we. It's not about what you had, but what you gave. It's not about how you looked, but how you lived. And it's not just about being remembered. It's about giving people a good reason to remember you.

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inspiration remember-you thinking

Breaking free, or not, is usually determined by whether you want to get somewhere slowly or nowhere fast.

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breaking-free determined want

We are often so distracted by the internal war between what we want to do and what we have to do that we overlook what we need to do.

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want war needs

Being in love with someone who doesn't even know that you exist isn't the worst thing in the world.

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being-in-love worst world

Regret; The saddest word in the English language.

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english-language regret language

Sometimes divulging your vulnerabilities without any kind of filter can make you more human, but then again, it can also provide material that can be used against you.

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filters kind sometimes

people can die , dreams cant

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dies dream people

It was like death by a thousand paper cuts.

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She was a dead girl having the worst panic attack shed ever had. Not because she was afraid of dying, but because she knew that she would never live again.

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girl dying fear

Just as love blinds us to imperfections in others, it magnifies those we see in ourselves. But if this is true, then the opposite must also be the case. We can take comfort in the fact that our faults will be invisible to those who love us. The success or failure of any relationship depends not just on how we feel about each other, but on how we make each other feel about ourselves.

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imperfection comfort opposites

Worry may not change the outcome, but it definately affects the outlook.

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If you expect nothing, you can never be disappointed. Apart from a few starry-eyed poets or monks living on a mountaintop somewhere, however, we all have expectations. We not only have them, we need them. They fuel our dreams, our hopes, and our lives like some super-caffeinated energy drink.

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energy expectations dream

Issues are like assholes, we've all got one," Pam snipped.

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issues

I love you, but i'm not fall in love with you

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falling-in-love love-you fall

The success or failure of any relationship depends not just on how we feel about each other, but on how we make each other feel about ourselves.

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success-or-failure depends feels

We don't miss what we never had, but we miss terribly things we almost had. And we miss things we used to have most of all. Through we hope and pray for our relationships, our looks, and our lives to improve, having more also means having more to lose.

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