you cannot hope for change in others, you can only work toward it in yourself. And that's hard work. Lisa Unger More Quotes by Lisa Unger More Quotes From Lisa Unger I can get my head turned by a good-looking guy as much as the next girl. But sexy doesn't impress me. Smart impresses me, strength of character impresses me. But most of all, I am impressed by kindness. Kindness, I think, comes from learning hard lessons well, from falling and picking yourself up. It comes from surviving failure and loss. It implies an understanding of the human condition, forgives its many flaws and quirks. When I see that in someone, it fills me with admiration. Lisa Unger sexygirlstrength When you start to really know someone, all his physical characteristics start to disappear. You begin to dwell in his energy, recognize the scent of his skin. You see only the essence of the person,not the shell. That's why you can't fall in love with beauty. You can lust after it, be infatuated by it, want to own it. You can love it with your eyes and body but not your heart. And that's why, when you really connect with a person's inner self, any physical imperfections disappear, become irrelevant. Lisa Unger eyelovefall How many people can you claim truly care about you? I mean, not just the people in your life who are fun to hang out with, not just the people who you love and trust. But people who feel good when you are happy and successful, feel bad when you are hurt or going through a hard time, people who would walk away from their lives for a little while to help you with yours? Lisa Unger hurtfunmean When you love someone, it doesn't really matter if they love you back or not. Having love in your heart for someone is its own reward. or punishment, depending on the circumstances. Lisa Unger punishmentlove-youheart Writers are first and foremost observers. We lose ourselves in the watching and then the telling of the world we find. Often we feel on the fringes, in the margins of life. And that's where we belong. What you are a part of, you cannot observe. Lisa Unger fringeworldfirsts They don't find peace. It's pure bullshit. When something unspeakable happens, or when you do something unspeakable, it changes you. It takes you apart and reassembles you. You are a Frankenstein of circumstance, and the parts never fit back quite right and the life you live is a stolen one. You don't deserve to walk among the living, and you know it. Lisa Unger bullshitfitlife The truth has not so much set us free as it has ripped away a carefully constructed facade, leaving us naked to begin again. Lisa Unger facadenakedleaving I think that's the moment when we all grow up, when we stop blaming our parents for the messes we've made out of our lives and start owning the consequences of our actions. Lisa Unger growing-upresponsibilitythinking The Universe doesn't like secrets. It conspires to reveal the truth, to lead you to it. Lisa Unger beautiful-liesuniversesecret You can cut the ties that bind but not without losing a part of yourself. You can walk away and hide from the people who made you, but you'll always hear them calling your name. Lisa Unger familycuttingnames A child who's been injured by a parent waits her whole life for some acknowledgment of the wrong that's been done, some validation from him that her pain is real, that he's sorry and will make amends. The child will wait forever, unable to move forward, unable to forgive, without someone to acknowledge the past. In that powerlessness comes a terrible rage. Lisa Unger painsorrychildren The universe conspires to reveal the truth and to make your path easy if you have the courage to follow the signs. Lisa Unger ifspatheasy We can't hold on to anyone or anything, you know. We lose everything except that which we carry within us. Lisa Unger losesknowsloss I don't believe in mistakes. Never have. I believe that there are a multitude of paths before us and it's just a matter of which way we walk home. I don't believe in regret. If you regret things about your life, than I'll bet that you're not paying attention. Regret is just imagining that you know what would have happened if you took that job in California or married your high-school sweetheart or just looked one more time before you stepped out into the street ... or didn't. But you don't know; you can't possibly know. Lisa Unger regretmistakejobs It was a strange lightness, a drifting feeling. Zero gravity. I understood that everything that once seemed solid and immovable might just float away. And that this was a truth of life, not an illusion in the grieving mind of a child. Everything that is hard and heavy in your world is made up of billions of molecules in constant motion offering the illusion of permanence. But it all tends toward breaking down and falling away. Some things just go more quickly, more surprisingly, than others. Lisa Unger zerochildrenfall Many people believe that evil is the presence of something. I think it's the absence of something. Lisa Unger believepeoplethinking People who stay in the same town with the same friends for their entire lives never get a chance to find out who they can really be, because they will always be considered as who they were. Lisa Unger townschancepeople The worst violence we can do to each other often is psychological, especially in families. I dwell a lot on domestic danger. Thats the backdrop of most of my novels - what kind of damage is done without ever lifting a finger. Lisa Unger damage-is-doneoften-isviolence Motherhood was an ever widening circle of good-byes. Lisa Unger motherhoodcirclesbye Everyone always talks about how well mothers know their children. No one ever seems to notice how well children know their mothers. Lisa Unger wellsmotherchildren
