You never truly need what you want. That is the main and thoroughgoing key to serenity. Albert Ellis More Quotes by Albert Ellis More Quotes From Albert Ellis There are three musts that hold us back: "I must do well. You must treat me well. And the world must be easy." And I sometimes think that as long as we keep the second must, which is socially learned, then some screwballs 100 years from now will manufacture atomic bombs in their bathtub and maybe annihilate the whole human race because they demand that the rest of the world must agree with their dogmas. When we don't agree, they may zap us. Albert Ellis race years thinking I think the future of psychotherapy and psychology is in the school system. We need to teach every child how to rarely seriously disturb himself or herself and how to overcome disturbance when it occurs. In that sense, psychotherapy belongs in the schools. Albert Ellis children school thinking I would like to be remembered as one of the individuals who founded, ideologically and practically, cognitive behavior therapy and who pioneered multimodal or integrated therapy. Albert Ellis integrated individual behavior I would have liked having children to some degree, but frankly I haven't got the time to take the kids to the goddamn ballgame. So it would have had more disadvantages than advantages for them. Albert Ellis degrees kids children Freud had a gene for inefficiency, and I think I have a gene for efficiency. Had I not been a therapist, I would have been an efficiency expert. Albert Ellis efficiency experts thinking I'm one of the best-loved psychologists in the United States, but I'm also probably the most hated one. Albert Ellis psychologist united-states hated I started to call myself a rational therapist in 1955; later I used the term rational emotive. Now I call myself a rational emotive behavior therapist. Albert Ellis therapists used behavior Humans can always accept themselves unconditionally. Albert Ellis accepting humans There's no evidence whatsoever that men are more rational than women or that men are more willing to surrender their irrational beliefs. Both sexes seem to be equally irrational. Albert Ellis belief men sex Beginning in the 1960s, many studies showed that people who hold what we call irrational beliefs are significantly more disturbed than when they don't hold them, and the more strongly they hold them, the more disturbed they tend to be. Albert Ellis study belief people I started to call myself a "rational therapist" in January 1955; later I used the term "rational emotive." Now I call myself a "rational emotive behavior therapist." But from the start, I always included philosophic techniques as well as experiential, emotional and behavioral techniques. Albert Ellis january emotional technique Freud had a gene for inefficiency, and I think I have a gene for efficiency. Albert Ellis genes efficiency thinking I had used eclectic therapy and behavior therapy on myself at the age of 19 to get over my fear of public speaking and of approaching young women in public. Albert Ellis eclectic-style public-speaking age I would have liked having children to some degree, but frankly I haven't got the time to take the kids to the goddamn ballgame. Albert Ellis degrees kids children Religious fanaticism has clearly produced, and in all probability will continue to produce, enormous amounts of bickering, fighting, violence, bloodshed, homicide, feuds, wars, and genocide. Albert Ellis fighting religious war I wrote several articles criticizing psychoanalysis, but the analysts weren't listening to my objections. So I finally quit after practicing it for six years. Albert Ellis six listening years This, perhaps, goes to show that conditional self-esteem, as I have said for many years, is an insidious, real sickness, so much so that even Buddhists carelessly sneak it in and sometimes encourage their clients to achieve it. Albert Ellis buddhist real self-esteem I regret that I've been so busy with clinical work that I haven't been able to spend much time on experiments and outcome studies. Albert Ellis able outcomes regret I'm very happy. I like my work and the various aspects of it - going around the world, teaching the gospel according to St. Albert. Albert Ellis around-the-world aspect teaching I hope to die in the saddle seat. Albert Ellis seats saddles dies
