Gary Chapman Professions : Author Born : January 10, 1938 Browse All Authors Top 132 quotes by Gary Chapman For a long time, I have been wanting to write a book for singles that would help them in the dating process and in getting ready for marriage. Most of my writing, I've written to couples who are already married, because I've been doing marriage counseling for 35 years. Gary Chapman dating marriage time long I thought the whole thing was you fall in love with somebody, and it's so wonderful, and it's so euphoric, and it's going to be that way forever. Nobody told me that two years after you fall in love, you're going to come down off the euphoria. Gary Chapman nobody me you love You need to listen to your friends when they point out things about the person you're in love with. Listen to them, because they see what you can't see right now, but you'll see it later. Gary Chapman see you friends love I wish I'd known that apologizing is a sign of strength. I had the impression that if you apologize, it's a sign of weakness. I kind of picked up the message from my father, 'Real men don't apologize. You just do your best, and if you happen to hurt some people, that's their fault. You just go on. Don't apologize. That's a sign of weakness.' Gary Chapman best strength men father It is universal to give gifts as an expression of love. My academic background is anthropology, the study of cultures. We have never discovered a culture where gift-giving is not an expression of love. Gary Chapman never study love culture Typically, we get annoyed when our spouses complain. We get defensive. But, really, when your spouse complains, he or she is giving you wonderful information about what would make him or her feel loved. Gary Chapman loved feel you information Love is a spiritual grace. We learn it from God. Gary Chapman spiritual god love-is love Years and years ago, I said I did not want to write academic books. I want to write books that are in the language of the common person so that Joe, who didn't even go to college, can sit down and read my book and get it and apply it to his life. Gary Chapman down language life book If we can develop the character and work with God, then let him develop the character of Christ in us, we're going to become the best possible husband, the best possible wife. Gary Chapman best wife god work One of the things I say is, 'You cannot control your spouse, but you can influence your spouse.' And one of the ways to influence your spouse is to make sure you are meeting their need for love. Gary Chapman control you influence love People need to know their marriage is worth fighting for. Gary Chapman know marriage fighting people I remember, in the early days of my marriage, I thought I married the wrong person. We held to our own ideas of what the other should be and do, but neither of us lived up to those expectations. Gary Chapman thought marriage remember ideas Similar Authors F. E. Marsh author Iimani David author Beatrice Faust author Isabella Macdonald Alden author Isabella Beeton author Alan AtKisson author All Authors