Paul DePompo

He’ll distract himself with porn, drinking, or will overwork himself, he may become hyper-focused on morals in order to minimize the importance of sex, exhibit jealousy or anger regarding other’s happiness, and will tell you his wife does not like sex.

[Mr. Ready] talks to his close friends and family about his plans, and will go for counseling to sort out his feelings, if he hasn’t moved out yet, he’s sleeping in a separate bedroom.

Believing he deserves to have what he wants, he sees the affair as rewarding him for the special person he is. To accept less than what he wants would make him feel like a fool. He could be ‘fine’ in his marriage yet still believe he should exercise his sexual prowess. Getting you means he’s still got it … until he gets you.

Though he and his wife may be good friends, he’s in the midst of a sexual self-esteem crisis and believes sex with you is a key piece to happiness. He has sexual fantasies that he cannot share with his spouse because she is not open to it or may put him down.