By honestly acknowledging your past errors, but never damning yourself for them, you can learn to use your past for your own future benefit. Albert Ellis More Quotes by Albert Ellis More Quotes From Albert Ellis Worrying about dying will hardly help you live. Albert Ellis dying worry helping Attempts to help humans eliminate all self-ratings and views self-esteem as a self-defeating concept that encourages them to make conditional evaluations of self. Instead, it teaches people unconditional self-acceptance. Albert Ellis self-esteem acceptance views I think the future of psychotherapy and psychology is in the school system. We need to teach every child how to rarely seriously disturb himself or herself and how to overcome disturbance when it occurs. Albert Ellis children school thinking I think it's unfair, but they have the right as fallible, screwed-up humans to be unfair; that's the human condition. Albert Ellis human-condition unfair thinking The individual is taught that there is nothing that he as a total person is to feel ashamed of or self-hating for. Albert Ellis taught hate self If the Martians ever find out how human beings think, they'll kill themselves laughing. Albert Ellis humans laughing thinking Worry itself is one of the most painful conditions. Albert Ellis anxiety painful worry Eating is always a decision, nobody forces your hand to pick up food and put it into your mouth. Albert Ellis decision food hands Fat is a barrier, a bellicose statement to others that, to some, justifies hostility in kind. The world says to the fat person, "Your fatness is an affront to me, so we have the right to treat you as offensively as you appear." Fat is not merely viewed as another type of tissue, but as a diagnostic sign, a personal statement, and a measure of personality. Too little fat and we see you as being antisocial, fearful and sexless. Too much fat and we see you as slothful, stupid, and sexually hung up. Albert Ellis personality stupid food Most people would have given up when faced with all the criticism I've received over the years. Albert Ellis criticism people years Much of what we call emotion is nothing more or less than a certain kind - a biased, prejudiced, or strongly evaluative kind - of thought. Albert Ellis certain emotion kind Rational beliefs bring us closer to getting good results in the real world. Albert Ellis real belief world Spirit and soul is horseshit of the worst sort. Obviously there are no fairies, no Santa Clauses, no spirits. What there is, is human goals and purposes as noted by sane existentialists. But a lot of transcendentalists are utter screwballs. Albert Ellis purpose soul goal There's no evidence whatsoever that men are more rational than women. Both sexes seem to be equally irrational. Albert Ellis irrational men sex The more sinful and guilty a person tends to feel, the less chance there is that he will be a happy, healthy, or law-abiding citizen. He will become a compulsive wrong-doer. Albert Ellis healthy guilt law People have motives and thoughts of which they are unaware. Albert Ellis motive people Let's suppose somebody abused you sexually. You still had a choice, though not a good one, about what to tell yourself about the abuse. Albert Ellis abuse choices sexually Unless, of course, you insist on identifying yourself with the people and things you love; and thereby seriously disturb yourself. Albert Ellis detachment attachment people If something is irrational, that means it won't work. It's usually unrealistic. Albert Ellis irrational working-it mean Whenever you avoid alarming situations, you almost always increase your anxiety about them. Albert Ellis increase anxiety situation
