Every marriage moves either toward enhancing one another’s glory or toward degrading each other. Dan B. Allender More Quotes by Dan B. Allender More Quotes From Dan B. Allender So take seriously the story that God has given you to live. It’s time to read your own life, because your story is the one that could set us all ablaze. Dan B. Allender reading god life Genuine trust involves allowing another to matter and have an impact in our lives. For that reason, many who hate and do battle with God trust Him more deeply than those whose complacent faith permits an abstract and motionless stance before Him. Those who trust God most are those whose faith permits them to risk wrestling with Him over the deepest questions of life. Good hearts are captured in a divine wrestling match; fearful, doubting hearts stay clear of the mat. Dan B. Allender good-life hate heart Christ never intended to cover up the dark side of life, but rather to illuminate a path through it. Dan B. Allender cover-ups path dark Reconciliation is not to be withheld when repentance—that is, deep, heart‐changing acknowledgement of sin and a radical redirection of life—takes place in the one being rebuked. Nor is reconciliation to be extended to someone who has not repented. Dan B. Allender repentance sin heart Strength is found in weakness. Control is found in dependency. Power is found in surrender. Dan B. Allender surrender weakness found Beginning with the first day of life outside the womb, every child is asking two core questions: 'Am I loved?' and 'Can I get my own way?' These two questions mark us throughout life, and the answers we receive set the course for how we live. Dan B. Allender asking two children The work of restoration cannot begin until a problem is fully faced. Dan B. Allender restoration problem God wants us to relieve suffering, pursue justice, facilitate reconciliation, and free the heart to love, but He desires for us to do so in a way that reveals His Character. It is not enough just to do well for others or to do things well. We must do well in our unique way in order to reveal the vast creativity of a God who loves to bring change through the most unlikely channels. Dan B. Allender creativity heart character Healing comes when our story is raw, bone-deep and full of hunger for what only Jesus can offer. Dan B. Allender healing stories jesus Bold love is courageously setting aside our personal agenda to move humbly into the world of others with their well-being in view, willing to risk further pain in our souls, in order to be an aroma of life to some and an aroma of death to others. Dan B. Allender pain love-is moving Most people want to grow, but the price of growth is pain. Dan B. Allender pain challenges people If we want to create a different future, we must have the courage to look at the past. Dan B. Allender different looks past Every addiction is an attempt to slay hope. Dan B. Allender addiction Stories don't give answers, but they do offer perspective. Dan B. Allender perspective stories giving [Biblical counseling] Must insist that the image of God is central to developing a solid view of personality; that our sinfulness, not how we've been sinned against, is our biggest problem; that forgiveness, not wholeness, is our greatest need; that repentance, not insight, is the dynamic in all real change. Dan B. Allender biblical real views The sole reason to serve as a Christian is Jesus, yet He is easily lost in the various activities that consume our days. Dan B. Allender christian reason jesus The desire for beauty, the hunger for union, the passion to be part of something greater than self, all arise out of our bent to worship. Dan B. Allender passion self desire Fasting from any nourishment, activity, involvement or pursuit—for any season—sets the stage for God to appear. Fasting is not a tool to pry wisdom out of God's hands or to force needed insight about a decision. Fasting is not a tool for gaining discipline or developing piety (whatever that might be). Instead, fasting is the bulimic act of ridding ourselves of our fullness to attune our senses to the mysteries that swirl in and around us."—Dan B. Allender, PhD Dan B. Allender discipline decision hands A leader - whether in the home, church, business, community, or government - has authority due to her role, but her positional power will not bring about good for individuals or organizations unless it is backed up by the capital of character. Dan B. Allender government home character Life is war, and marriage provides us with a close and intimate ally with whom we may wage this war. The battle requires bold love, forgiveness, confrontation, and repentance. Dan B. Allender allies battle war
