Every message, regardless of form or content, is an expression of a need. Marshall B. Rosenberg More Quotes by Marshall B. Rosenberg More Quotes From Marshall B. Rosenberg The number one rule of our training is empathy before education. Marshall B. Rosenberg empathytrainingnumbers When we listen for feelings and needs - we can see that people who seem like monsters are simply human beings whose language and behavior sometimes keep us from seeing their humanness. Marshall B. Rosenberg monstersfeelingspeople An important aspect of self-compassion is to be able to empathically hold both parts of ourselves-the self that regrets a past action and the self that took the action in the first place. Marshall B. Rosenberg regretcompassionpast Translate all self-judgments into self-empathy. Marshall B. Rosenberg judgmentempathyself Life-Enriching Education: an education that prepares children to learn throughout their lives, relate well to others, and themselves, be creative, flexible, and venturesome, and have empathy not only for their immediate kin but for all of humankind. Marshall B. Rosenberg empathycreativechildren Empathy is a respectful understanding of what others are experiencing. Marshall B. Rosenberg respectfulempathyunderstanding When people hear needs, it provokes compassion. When people hear diagnoses, it provokes defensiveness and attack. Marshall B. Rosenberg communicationcompassionpeople A difficult message to hear is an opportunity to enrich someone's life. Marshall B. Rosenberg communicationmessagesopportunity Two things distinguish nonviolent actions from violent actions. First, you don't see an enemy and second, your intention is not to make the other side suffer. Marshall B. Rosenberg communicationtwoenemy It's never what people do that makes us angry; it's what we tell ourselves about what they did. Marshall B. Rosenberg angryangerpeople Always listen to what people need rather than what they are thinking about us. Marshall B. Rosenberg communicationpeoplethinking The more we use words that in any way imply criticism, the more difficult it is for people to stay connected to the beauty within themselves. Marshall B. Rosenberg communicationcriticismpeople Conventional compliments often take the form of judgments however positive, and are sometimes offered to manipulate the behavior of others. NVC encourages the expression of appreciation solely for celebration. Marshall B. Rosenberg communicationexpressionappreciation The most important use of NVC may be in developing self-compassion. Marshall B. Rosenberg communicationcompassionself As long as I think I 'should' do it, I'll resist it, even if I want very much to do it. Marshall B. Rosenberg communicationlongthinking The more we talk about the past, the less we heal from it. Marshall B. Rosenberg nonviolent-communicationcommunicationpast We need empathy to give empathy. Marshall B. Rosenberg empathygivingneeds We need empathy to give empathy. When we sense ourselves being defensive or unable to empathize, we need to (a) stop, breathe, give ourselves empathy, (b) scream nonviolently, or (c) take time out. Marshall B. Rosenberg empathygivingneeds NVC is language, thoughts, communication skills and means of influence that serve my desire to do three things: 1) to liberate myself from cultural learning that is in conflict with how I want to live my life. 2) to empower myself to connect with myself and others in a way that makes compassionate giving natural. 3) to empower myself to create structures that support compassionate giving. Marshall B. Rosenberg communicationskillsmean The intention behind the protective use of force is to prevent injury, never to punish or to cause individuals to suffer, repent or change. Marshall B. Rosenberg communicationusesuffering
