From speaking with my mother I learned that forgiveness is a process that begins with the choice to end your own suffering. Iyanla Vanzant More Quotes by Iyanla Vanzant More Quotes From Iyanla Vanzant I let go of the past and choose to accept every situation as being for me and not against me. Iyanla Vanzant acceptingletting-gopast Everything is just as it needs to be. And if we would forgive, our minds and hearts would open and we could see another possibility. Iyanla Vanzant forgivenessforgivingheart And perhaps you thought, "Because I'm doing so much spiritual work, I'm only going to attract angels." No! The more spiritual work you do, the more darkness you attract. Because the light don't need more light. The darkness needs light! The light doesn't need more light. Iyanla Vanzant angellightspiritual You have set standards for how you want to be treated and what you expect from yourself and for yourself. Iyanla Vanzant treatedstandardswant Instead of running from what you don't want, walk with commitment toward what you desire. Focus on where you are going rather than being obsessed with where you have been. Iyanla Vanzant focusrunningcommitment You can't just cry about the pain. You can't just pray about the pain. You must eliminate the pain. Iyanla Vanzant crypainpraying The ego encourages you to constantly prove yourself and what you already know. When you are in the presence of someone you feel the need to impress, the ego's automatic response is 'I know.' The moment you say 'I know,' you are demonstrating that you don't know. You can learn something valuable from everyone, in every situation. Iyanla Vanzant egomomentsneeds Use your time, energy and talents to do the best you can right now. Spend no time wishing it were better Iyanla Vanzant energyusewish You do not have to love what is going on in your life, but you must accept that it, whatever it is, is going on. As long as you do not accept reality, you are powerless to define the role you will play. Iyanla Vanzant playlongreality In my deepest, darkest moments, what really got me through was a prayer. Sometimes my prayer was 'Help me.' Sometimes a prayer was 'Thank you.' What I've discovered is that intimate connection and communication with my creator will always get me through because I know my support, my help, is just a prayer away. Iyanla Vanzant communicationprayerthank-you All of us have ways in which we mask and cover our pain. Iyanla Vanzant maskpainway Feminine power is silent, dark, mysterious, healing, nurturing. A woman can walk into a room and control it. She doesn't even have to open her mouth if she knows where her power is. Iyanla Vanzant healingmouthsdark In the process of planning and having a wedding, I forgot there would actually be a marriage, a union of minds, bodies, souls, and issues that would come together as soon as the ceremony was over. Iyanla Vanzant issuessoulmind When do you feel most loved? Are you willing to be loved today? Self-love is the magnet that attracts deep and profound expressions of love from others Iyanla Vanzant expressionselflove-is Love is not all that is required in a relationship. It needs understanding, openness, kidness, patience, long-suffering Iyanla Vanzant understandinglove-islong Their issues are not your issues. Iyanla Vanzant issues You can never love anyone to your own detriment. That is not love, that is possession, control, fear, or a combination of them all. Iyanla Vanzant combinationpossession Forgive yourself for believing things about yourself that are not true. Forgive yourself for believing that you were anything other than a child of God. Then, after forgiving yourself for believing the things you were told, forgive the people who told you. Forgive them not for what they said or did. Forgive them because they did not know any better. Iyanla Vanzant believechildrenpeople Accept all invitations to do a new thing. Dare not limit yourself. Move toward your wildest # dream , take the labels off your mind, and step boldly into your greatness. Iyanla Vanzant greatnessdreammoving Rather than beating yourself up for what you are not doing, appreciate and celebrate the things you are doing. When you shift your focus away from what you do not want, you can create a vision for what you do. Don't fight with yourself - focus on what you do, can do, choose to do, are ready to do. Iyanla Vanzant appreciatefocusfighting
