God forbid that women have fantasies. E. L. James More Quotes by E. L. James More Quotes From E. L. James Never trust a man who can dance. E. L. James shade fifty men I think you can only be truly mad at someone you really love. E. L. James mad-at-someone true-love thinking It's very hard to grow up in a perfect family when you're not perfect. E. L. James growing-up family perfect There's a very fine line between pleasure and pain. They are two sides of the same coin, one not existing without the other. E. L. James coins two-sides pain Don't get your panties in such a twist... and give me back mine. E. L. James twists romance giving The best person to write for is yourself—and what better place to start than in a journal. E. L. James best-person persons writing Men aren't really complicated. They are very simple, literal creatures. They usually mean what they say. And we spend hours trying to analyze what they've said, when really it's obvious. E. L. James simple men mean I do not look at the world in terms of black and white - and I find people who do rather scary. I think it's all shades of grey. E. L. James black-and-white people thinking I'm not a great writer. E. L. James great-writers I cannot be with someone who takes pleasure in inflicting pain on me, someone who can't love me E. L. James sadism pain broken So you've just slept with him, given him your virginity, a man who doesn't love you. In fact, he has odd ideas about you, wants to make you some sort of kinky sex slave. E. L. James love-you men sex The candle flame is too hot. It flickers and dances in the over-warm breeze, a breeze that brings no respite from the heat. Soft gossamer wings flutter to and fro in the dark, sprinkling dusty scaled in the circle of light. I'm struggling to resist, but I'm drawn. And then it's to bright, and I am flying too close to the sun, dazzled by the light, fried and melting from the heat, weary in my endeavers to stay airborn. I am so warm. The heat... It's stiffling, overpowering. It wakes me. E. L. James light struggle dark I don't think [Fifty Shades of Grey is] a model for anything. Except maybe in bed. E. L. James bed fifty thinking Women basically want the same thing - a good passionate story, a great fantasy - and for our partners to do the laundry and the washing up. E. L. James passionate stories want It's much easier to wear your pain on the outside. E. L. James easier pain All a writer wants is to be read, and people are so flattering and lovely. I mean, there are witches out there as well. But most are so kind. E. L. James lovely mean people It's the fantasy of first love. If you've been married for 400 years, as I have, it's nice to experience first love again and you can vicariously through a book. And it is such a fantasy. It takes you away from doing the dishes and the laundry. I think of this as a contemporary romance rather than erotic fiction. E. L. James first-love nice book People are talking about sex. They're talking about sex with their husbands. They're talking about sex with their girlfriends. They're talking about sex with their partners. And because of all of this communication, women are having much more intimate relationships, which is fantastic. E. L. James girlfriend husband sex Any relationship that you have is about negotiation - anything - whether there is a written contract or not. E. L. James contracts negotiation written I think virgins are far more interesting to write about. If we've been around the block a few times, we know what to expect. Not so with virgins. E. L. James block writing thinking