Holding on to expectations is often the source of unforgiving feelings. Virginia H. Pearce More Quotes by Virginia H. Pearce More Quotes From Virginia H. Pearce Positive reinforcement changes behavior for the better, while criticism stabilizes negative behaviors and blocks change. Virginia H. Pearce block criticism negative Why is fear part of earth life? Perhaps our Heavenly Father’s greatest hope is that through our fears we may choose to turn to Him. The uncertainties of earth life can help to remind each of us that we are dependent on Him. But that reminder is not automatic. It involves our agency. We must choose to take our fears to Him, choose to trust Him, and choose to allow Him to direct us. We must make these choices when what we feel most inclined to do is to rely more and more on our own frantic and often distorted thinking. Virginia H. Pearce agency father thinking Forgiveness is not between me and the one who has hurt me; it is between me and the Lord. Virginia H. Pearce hurt-me hurt lord Truth matters. Everything we can do to find, feed, and strengthen it is worth the effort. Virginia H. Pearce effort matter can-do Humility is to joyfully, voluntarily and quietly submit one's whole life to God's will, to finally use the gift of agency to give one's life back to Him. Virginia H. Pearce agency humility giving When we have been hurt, slighted, or wounded unfairly, we are not left alone to bear it. We can get on our knees and ask for the Lord's help to forgive. Virginia H. Pearce knees forgiving hurt We mirror God's mercy to us when we forgive another. Virginia H. Pearce forgiving mirrors mercy We will know our forgiveness is complete when we have a genuine desire for the welfare of the people who have wronged us. Virginia H. Pearce welfare desire people Out-of-whack emotions are always a good beginning point for identifying beliefs that aren't really true, an easy red flag for our inquiry. Exaggerated emotions of anxiety or discouragement invite us to trace them back to the thoughts that are creating them. Virginia H. Pearce red-flags anxiety creating Forgiveness is possible even when there is no restitution, no remorse on the part of the perpetrator. Virginia H. Pearce restitution perpetrators remorse Sometimes forgiveness is instant, but sometimes it takes time. Virginia H. Pearce instant take-time sometimes Forgiveness doesn't mean we have to pretend someone didn't hurt us. Virginia H. Pearce hurt mean