I have the foundation to write, and then I go back and do research, and some of that might influence the recrafting of certain scenes. Amor Towles More Quotes by Amor Towles More Quotes From Amor Towles Emily Post says that talking about oneself isn't very polite.' 'I'm sure Miss Post is perfectly correct, but that doesn't seem to stop the rest of us. Amor Towles polite missing talking Really. Is there anything nice to be said about other people's vacations? Amor Towles vacation nice people In the contemporary world, we think of politeness as surface behavior, like frosting - it's sweet and attractive and finishes off the cake. But 19th century nobility and the enlightened thinkers and stoics before them viewed manners in a very different way. To them, manners are an outward expression of an inward struggle. Amor Towles cake struggle sweet world When I visited Moscow for the first time in 1998, I wandered into the historic Metropol Hotel as a curious tourist simply to ogle the giant painted glass ceiling that hangs over the grand restaurant off the lobby. It was the memory of that short visit that prompted me, some years later, to set 'A Gentleman in Moscow' in the hotel. Amor Towles memory me gentleman time What can a first impression tell us about anyone? Why, no more than a chord can tell us about Beethoven, or a brushstroke about Botticelli. Amor Towles why us more tell By their very nature, human beings are so capricious, so complex, so delightfully contradictory, that they deserve not only our consideration but our reconsideration. Amor Towles human only nature deserve While I began writing 'Rules of Civility' in 2006, the genesis of the book dates back to the early 1990s, when I happened upon a copy of 'Many Are Called,' the collection of portraits that Walker Evans took on the New York City subways in the late 1930s with a hidden camera. Amor Towles camera city new book To a bookish boy in a Boston suburb in the mid-1970s, the lyrics of Cole Porter came as something of a revelation. Amor Towles lyrics boy something boston I prefer to put myself in an environment that's further afield and look through the eyes of someone who differs from me in age, ethnicity, gender, and/or social class. I think a little displacement makes me a sharper observer. Amor Towles eyes myself me age I published 'Rules of Civility' while I was still working. It became a best seller. I was working on this book, and then I decided to retire. Amor Towles retire rules best book You can build a place that is beautiful, but nobody feels comfortable sitting in it, and the kids aren't allowed to go into many of the rooms. Or a place can look lived in, but it doesn't please the eye. Amor Towles nobody look you beautiful I've been writing fiction since I was a kid. From the age of 15 to 25, I probably wrote more than 50 short stories, one of which was published in 'The Paris Review' in 1989. Amor Towles short paris age writing My personal challenge as an artist has been having a day job which is intellectually satisfying and fun - and thus can easily supplant the desire to make art. Amor Towles challenge job day art My grandmother, who was simultaneously a woman of manners and verve, fended off marriage proposals until she was 30 because she was having too much fun to settle down. Amor Towles woman down marriage fun As awful as the crimes of Stalinism were, the vast majority of the Russian population was trying to survive, to love, to have a sense of purpose. Amor Towles survive purpose trying love All the historical elements should feel organic to the story but not hammered down to serve a purpose. Amor Towles down story feel purpose Growing up, I didn't come from a musical family. Neither of my parents played an instrument, sang out loud, or listened to the radio with frequency. The record collection in the living room was only about 2 feet long - and that included 4 solid inches of Neil Diamond and Herb Alpert. Amor Towles parents family feet long Dad has worked as a banker at the same firm in Boston, living in the same suburban neighborhood for over 50 years. Later in life, when I got out of graduate school and imagined myself living the life of a writer like Hemingway or Kerouac, his practical self inevitably encouraged me to get a steady a job and raise a family, just like he did. Amor Towles myself me family life I always thought I was a writer on the inside, but after a few years of not writing, you can't make that claim anymore. Amor Towles inside thought you writing I totally remember that: being 25 and unemployed and trying to stretch each cappuccino for 60 minutes. Amor Towles being unemployed remember trying