There are almost as many definitions of co-dependency as there are experiences that represent it. Melody Beattie More Quotes by Melody Beattie More Quotes From Melody Beattie There is honor in all work, in all tasks, but take it one step further. Make what you do a labor of love. Then your work will truly touch and change the world in the way you desire. The work you do, whatever your chosen field, will be work that heals. Melody Beattie tasks honor desire We learn the magical lesson that making the most of what we have turns it into more. Melody Beattie turns effort lessons Writing forces consciousness. Melody Beattie force consciousness writing It's hard to give up the self-esteem connected to being codependent and appearing 'right,' which is probably a survival behavior learned from growing up in a crazy family. It feels like you will actually disappear. Melody Beattie growing-up giving-up crazy We decided that sooner or later you had to learn to live without almost everybody, at least for a while. Even people you didn't think you could live without." p 167 love always found itself again. Melody Beattie found people thinking Even if the most important person in your world rejects you, you are still real, and you are still okay. Melody Beattie rejects-you rejection real Prayer changes things. Prayer changes us. Prayer changes life. Sometimes an event has been manifested that needs to be stopped, midair. Don't pray just when you're in trouble. Pray every day. Surround yourself with prayer. You never know when you might need an extra miracle. Melody Beattie life-changing miracle prayer I saw people who were hostile; they had felt so much hurt that hostility was their only defense against being crushed again. Melody Beattie defense hurt people Sometimes, we don't get what we want. . . But this is a benevolent universe. And once in a while, we do. Melody Beattie sadness hope trying Like it or not, i was already learning that in the worst and darkest time, I would find specks of light, moments of joy. What I didn't want to learn was the other, harsher lesson - that in life's brightest moments there would also be unbearable pain. p 87 Melody Beattie pain light joy We don't want to give the controls to someone else; we want those reins ourselves. We want to get our way. And we get upset when things don't work out. . . . When we try to control someone else or events beyond the scope of our power, we lose. When we learn to discern the difference between what we can change and what we can't, we usually have an easier time expressing our power in our lives. Because we're not wasting all our energy using our power to change things we can't, we have a lot of energy left over to live our lives. Melody Beattie control-someone differences giving Letting go of our ideas about how life should go is a choice that sets life's magic free. Melody Beattie choices letting-go ideas Today, I will focus on what's right about me. I will give myself some of the caring I've extended to the world. Melody Beattie focus caring giving Our best problem-solving resource is peace. Solutions arise easily and naturally out of a peaceful state. Melody Beattie recovery peaceful problem Expressing passion and gratitude will guide your life. Say it again and again. Say it until you believe it. Say it until you live it. Melody Beattie gratitude passion believe ...Help me let go of my need to stay immersed in negativity. I can change the energy in myself and my environment from negative to positive. I will affirm the good until it sinks in and feels real. I will also strive to find one quality that I like about someone else who's important to me, and I will take the risk of telling him or her that. Melody Beattie real change letting-go I gave three years of my life to take care of my dying mother who had Alzheimer's disease. Being there for her every need for three years might have looked codependent but it wasn't because it was what I wanted to do. Melody Beattie alzheimers mother years Each life needs its own quiet place. Melody Beattie quiet-place quiet needs It's our job to first make ourselves feel better and then make ourselves feel good. Melody Beattie feel-good feel-better jobs When we don't ask for what we want and need, we discount ourselves. Melody Beattie discounts want needs
