We all know that it is women who take the decisions, but we have to let men think that the decisions are theirs. It is an act of kindness on the part of women. Alexander McCall Smith More Quotes by Alexander McCall Smith More Quotes From Alexander McCall Smith You can go through life and make new friends every year - every month practically - but there was never any substitute for those friendships of childhood that survive into adult years. Those are the ones in which we are bound to one another with hoops of steel. Alexander McCall Smith friendship life years The telling of a story, like virtually everything in this life, was always made all the easier by a cup of tea. Alexander McCall Smith cups stories tea Most people want nothing to happen. That is the problem with governments these days. They want to do things all the time; they are always very busy thinking of what things they can do next. That is not what people want. People want to be left alone to look after their cattle. Alexander McCall Smith gratitude government thinking The Culture of Complaint... We live in a culture of complaint because everyone is always looking for things to complain about. It's all tied in with the desire to blame others for misfortunes and to get some form of compensation into the bargain. Alexander McCall Smith complaining desire culture How many of us are happy to be exactly where we are at any moment?...only the completely happy think that they are in the correct place. Alexander McCall Smith moments thinking Manners are the basic building blocks of civil society. Alexander McCall Smith building block manners Gracious acceptance is an art - an art which most never bother to cultivate. We think that we have to learn how to give, but we forget about accepting things, which can be much harder than giving.... Accepting another person's gift is allowing him to express his feelings for you. Alexander McCall Smith acceptance art thinking Regular maps have few surprises: their contour lines reveal where the Andes are, and are reasonably clear. More precious, though, are the unpublished maps we make ourselves, of our city, our place, our daily world, our life; those maps of our private world we use every day; here I was happy, in that place I left my coat behind after a party, that is where I met my love; I cried there once, I was heartsore; but felt better round the corner..., things of that sort, our personal memories, that make the private tapestry of our lives. Alexander McCall Smith party cities memories Be content with who you are and where you are, and do whatever you can do to bring to others such contentment, and joy, and understanding that you have managed to find yourself. Alexander McCall Smith finding-yourself understanding joy There is room in history for all of us. Alexander McCall Smith rooms I see no point in being despondent. We might as well enjoy ourselves during our brief tenure of this life. Alexander McCall Smith this-life enjoy might None of us knows how we will cope with snakes until the moment arises, and then most of us find out that we do not do it very well. Alexander McCall Smith snakes arise moments We don't forget.... Our heads may be small, but they are as full of memories as the sky may sometimes be full of swarming bees, thousands and thousands of memories, of smells, of places, of little things that happened to us and which came back, unexpectedly, to remind us who we are. Alexander McCall Smith smell sky memories There are old mycologists and there are bold mycologists, but there are no old, bold mycologists. Alexander McCall Smith And how we become like our parents! How their scorned advice - based, we felt in our superiority, on prejudices and muddled folk wisdom - how their opinions are subsequently borne out by our own discoveries and sense of the world, one after one. And as this happens, we realise with increasing horror that proposition which we would never have entertained before: our mothers were right! Alexander McCall Smith parent mother discovery They're very beautiful, aren't they? Clouds are very beautiful and yet so often we fail to appreciate them properly. We should do that. We should look at them and think about how lucky we are to have them. Alexander McCall Smith clouds beautiful thinking It was time to take the pumpkin out of the pot and eat it. In the final analysis, that was what solved these big problems of life. You could think and think and get nowhere, but you still had to eat your pumpkin. That brought you down to earth. That gave you a reason for going on. Pumpkin. Alexander McCall Smith finals analysis thinking It is sometimes easier to be happy if you don't know everything. Alexander McCall Smith irony ironic happiness It seems to me that we're in danger of losing sight of certain basic civic values in society by allowing the growth of a whole generation of people who really have no sense of attachment to society. Alexander McCall Smith attachment sight people Old friends, like old shoes, are comfortable. But old shoes, unlike old friends, tend not to be supportive: it is easier to stumble and sprain an ankle while wearing a pair of old shoes than it is in new shoes, with their less yielding leather. Alexander McCall Smith new-shoes supportive old-friends
