We value apology in the abstract, but turn our backs on it in practice. John Kador More Quotes by John Kador More Quotes From John Kador Progress occurs one apology at a time. John Kador progress apology An effective apology contains within it the answer to the question, "How am I to be held accountable?" John Kador apology answers An effective apology focuses more on compassion for the victim than redemption for the offender. John Kador redemption apology compassion You don't have to see eye-to-eye to walk hand-in-hand. You just have to want to go in the same direction. John Kador apology eye hands Apologies have more power than most of us realize to restore strained relationships, free us from vengeful impulses, and create possibilities for growth. John Kador apology realizing growth The purpose of apology is to extend ourselves in such a way that relationships become deeper, and life becomes richer and more human in the process. John Kador apology purpose way Apology sends the clearest signal that we have the strength of character to reconcile ourselves with the truth. John Kador signals apology character Apology is both transactional, in that it restores what has been broken to what it was before, and transformational, in that it creates opportunities that didn't exist before. John Kador apology broken opportunity Apology may be scorned, but it retains its inherent value. John Kador inherent apology may When I accept an apology it means that the part in me that honors our relationship honors the part in you that honors our relationship. John Kador apology honor mean Accepting the apology signals the acknowledgment of a need to move forward, but not necessarily together. John Kador apology together moving An apology informed is good; an apology performed is better. John Kador apology "I would like to apologize" may sound like an apology, but it is no more an actual apology than saying "I would like to lose weight" makes you suddenly slimmer. John Kador apology weight sound We rarely wrestle with apology and lose. John Kador loses apology One of the most useful tasks of apology is to bring home to us how keenly, honestly, and painfully past generations pursued aims that now seem to us wrong and disgraceful. It behooves us to consider if future geenrations will similarly regard the aims we most defend today. John Kador apology home past Apology is the practice of extending ourselves because we value the relationship more than we value the need to be right. John Kador apology practice needs Apology is the most courageous gesture we can make to ourselves. John Kador gestures courageous apology When we apologize we end our struggle with history. John Kador apologizing apology struggle You can't talk your way out of a situation you acted you way into. John Kador situation apology way Apology may start as a feeling, a desire to make matters right, but it requires a commitment to move that desire into practice, to actually take on the great courageous task of showing compassion to others. John Kador apology commitment moving
