What puts someone on guard isn't necessarily the fear of being found out. Terry Gross More Quotes by Terry Gross More Quotes From Terry Gross You know, how am I leading my own life? What am I denying? Since I brought such great powers of denial into my adult life, what am I not doing as a husband? What am I not doing as a father? The whole thing started unraveling with me that once I kept it up close to the chest, I could hold it all in, but once I started letting it out, it all started coming out. Terry Gross adults husband father And once you say this is true, you start naming the beast that hurts you - so I started doing this. Other truths come out. Terry Gross true-you beast hurt We grew up as this family of deniers. And people who knew us for years were stunned when "The Great Santini" came out because we had this appearance of being this happy, large, smiling family. We were taught to smile, put the best face forward. And so when the book ended up - Dad swatting us around the room, no one believed me. Terry Gross dad book years "The Prince Of Tides" is a lot about my mother - what my mother would do after Dad would hit one of the kids or hit two of the kids, hit all the kids, hit her, she would usually get in the car. We'd drive out. She would say, I'm going to divorce him. I'm never going back. Terry Gross dad mother kids The line changed my life 'cause I thought of some poor woman I hadn't even met walking around the United States or the world not knowing she's going to be beaten up by me and these kids, unborn, not knowing they were going to be born into the family of a child-beater just because I was. So it really did have a great effect on me. Terry Gross knowing kids children I was in an adolescent psychology class at Citadel when the guy said, if you had a mother who was beaten, there's a great chance you'll beat your wife. And if you were beaten as a child, there's a terrific chance you're going to be a child-beater. Terry Gross mother class children I mean, Dad was one of these people who simply could not lose, you know? He could not stand it when a kid was beating him. He would go crazy when the child came to that moment, which, you know, you have to come to - I mean, Dad played Old Maids like he played football. He just simply had to win every single thing every single time. Terry Gross dad football children All my brothers and sisters have stories about Dad like this. I remember, when my sister was about to beat him in checkers for the first time, he knocked the board over. Terry Gross boards dad brother Rapists who might've been convicted were free to assault other women. Terry Gross assault might When you're doing it on your album cover, I think it's a really bold statement, and it's a statement for women, because you are trying to break the mold of what beautiful is. Terry Gross entertainment All my life, I have never felt lonely with a dog I loved at my side, no matter how many times I've been alone. Terry Gross entertainment As I'm sure you can imagine. Terry Gross top-news
