Joann Hendelman Browse All Authors Famous Quotes by Joann Hendelman Somebody with an eating disorder is in competition with everybody else's body, the voice in somebody's eating disordered brain is,' You can't compete with this person, you've got a bigger body, you're bad, you should be on the diet that this person is on.'. Joann Hendelman Understand that that loved one is in pain, the food and eating is the way that they are numbing the pain, tolerating anxiety or getting through the day. Joann Hendelman